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10 Great Tips for Long Distance Grandloving by Sue Johnson and Julie Carlson, mother-in-law/daughter-in-law co-authors of Grandloving: Making Memories with Your Grandchildren
Put some top spin in your letters and pizzazz in your calls. Whenever you energize communications to grandchildren with stories and games only you can impart, you make yourself more memorable.
1. Smile! Photos and Movies Just for Grandchildren
Send pictures of yourself to use as a “night‑night board” to kiss before bed or as a placemat smiling up at every meal. Older grandchildren will enjoy a video “tour” of your home and neighborhood, especially before a visit. Any personalized production will become an heirloom that your grandchildren will love.
2. The Stories We Share: Creating a Family History with Grandchildren
First, record on an audiocassette a “sound scrapbook” of favorite family anecdotes. You might detail how you fell in love, what it was like to raise your children, and the ways in which you handled hardship and enjoyed good times. Then enclose another, blank tape with some questions for your grandchildren to answer.
3. Connecting by Phone with Your Young Chatters
What is the name of that scrappy neighbor child who worries your granddaughter so? And what’s that funny word your grandson uses for “car” or the name of your grandteen’s girlfriend? Asking open‑ended questions, paying special attention to feelings, and respecting a child’s need to solve some problems alone will draw out grandchildren of all ages.
4. Coins, Stamps, or . . . Spiders? Starting a Collection with Your Grandchild
Perhaps your little ones, like Bert on Sesame Street, love to hoard bottle caps. Whatever your grandchild’s interest, you can build on it by starting a collection or nurturing a hobby together. The best part will be the experience of learning something new together.
5. Signatures with a Twist
Grandbabies in our family don’t have to read to know something’s from Oma‑‑they smile as soon as they smell her perfumed envelopes. You can extend this idea to any kind of communication‑‑try inventing a new way to say goodbye on the phone, a smiling sideways “face” at the end of an email message (using a colon and end parenthesis), or a special stamp to decorate every package.
6. Gruppa’s Coming! Special Ideas for Before and After Visits
Anticipating the fun of a visit with a creative picture “calendar” will intrigue your young grandchildren. Simply draw a big box for each day of your visit‑‑or their visit to you‑‑and decide together what to do that day.
7. Grandloving in Cyberspace
If you and your grandchild both have home computers and an internet service, you can use email to stay close. Because of its nearly instantaneous delivery, you may find yourself writing more frequently and casually than ever.
8. Rewind, Fast Forward, Play: Grandma’s Telling a Story
Your voice, whether confident or shaky, couldn’t be more special to your littlest family members. Read a story, sing a song, sing a story, read a song‑‑any combination will do.
9. Mystery, Intrigue, Drama . . .Opa Sent a Secret Letter!
Whether you try your hand at “magical mirror messages” (written backwards), make your own special letter codes, or start a story that can be exchanged, playful games, puzzles, and add‑on stories can recharge any long‑distance relationship.
10. Bookin’ Along with Grandpa and Grandma
Here’s one foolproof way to get a cooperative book project started‑‑ask your preschooler grandchildren what they would put into cookies. Applesauce? Pepperoni? Oatmeal? Whatever their imaginative response, jot it down with others in a shared recipe book. Read more.